Introduction to the IDL Curriculum – Integral Deep Listening

Why Learn Integral Deep Listening Dream Yoga?

You spend 2,5 hours every night dreaming, five years of your life dreaming.ˆ
Your dreams affect your physical, emotional, and mental health
Your dreams either support your development or, left on their own, they act to slow it down
The future evolution of humanity involves the integration of waking and dream states, Be part of birthing the future of humanity.
Learn powerful, effective tools for helping family, friends, and clients.
Help children avoid the mistakes and traumas you experienced growing up.
Learn concrete, effective tools to support healing,
Learn concrete, effective tools to support balancing,
Learn concrete, effective tools to support transformation,
Develop a support system of people who are aligned with your goals.
Develop an internal support system that will always be there for you.
Learn to recognize and neutralize your resistances and blocks to healing, balancing, and transformation.

When you practice Integral Deep Listening Dream Yoga you:

Learn and practice dream incubation
Remember and record your dreams
Interview a character from your dreams at least once a week
Work with application of at least one recommendation with a partner every week
Interview someone else once a week
Work through the IDL Certrification curricula

Learn and practice dream incubation

Use your dream time to support your healing, balancing, transformation
Generate dreams that support same
Improve your waking creativity and mood

Remember and record your dreams

Keep a dream journal
Set a pre-sleep intention to remember your dreams
Keep pen and paper or other recording device near your bed
Learn techniques to increase recall

Interview a character from your dreams at least once a week

Learn the IDL Interviewing Protocol
Learn why and how it is effective
Learn the rationale for its questions
Learn how to deal with common issues with interviewing

Work with application of at least one recommendation with a partner every week

Learn why doing so is a short-cut to healing, balancing, and transformation
Learn how to identify and operationalize recommendations
Learn how and why to work with a partner
Learn how to track your recommendations
Learn how to track your progress

Interview someone else once a week

Develop your confidence in IDL Dream Yoga
Support the healing, balancing, and transformation of others
Change the world, one person at a time

Work through the IDL certification curricula

To increase your confidence and competence

To apply Dream Yoga to healing

- Eliminate toxic scripting
- Eliminate toxic drama
- Eliminate toxic thinking

To apply Dream Yoga to balancing

- Align your goals with the priorities of your life compass
- Practice assertiveness in the three realms: relationships, thinking, dreaming
- Practice superior problem solving

To apply Dream Yoga to transformation

- Practice Naming Meditation
- Practice Seven Octaves of IDL Pranayama
- Incubate a transformed life and transformed world

Words in the following text that are highlighted are linked to a glossary, where they are explained, listed in alphabetical order.

What is Integral Deep Listening?

Integral Deep Listening is a deep and integral form of listening, a dream yoga, a transpersonal, integral life practice, interactive and immersive, a training in both personal and collective healing, balancing, and transformation, and a five-level certification program: IDL Interviewer, Coaching, Practitioner, and Trainer.

Let’s look at what each of those components means:

A deep and integral form of listening

You may have noticed that much of the time, when people are “listening” to you they aren’t actually hearing what you are saying. Instead they are thinking about what they are going to say to you next. You can check this by asking people what they heard you say. You may be surprised at the distortions, misunderstandings, and incomplete responses you get. What normally passes for “listening” is filtered by our own assumptions and cognitive filters, most of which we are normally unaware. The result is that we think we are hearing each other when in fact we are having a dialogue with our own assumptions and projections onto who others are and what they mean. This is particularly true when we use code words that imply a common understanding when one may not exist. For example, people can place very different meanings on words like “God,” “spiritual,” “liberal,” progressive.” Integral Deep Listening teaches listening that suspends those assumptions and filters in order to hear others in a deep way. That deep listening is also integral in that it strives to be empathetic, that is, to bridge the gap between ourselves and the other.

Integral listening is also deep in that it extends listening beyond other people to dreamlike waking and dreaming dramas and to those others encountered in other states of consciousness, like mystical and near-death experiences.

A yoga

Yogas are spiritual disciplines designed to unite us with oneness, with the sacred dimension of life. Yogas may be physical (Hatha yoga), devotional, (Bhakti yoga), work-related (Karma yoga), meditative (Jnana yoga), energetic (Kundalini yoga), or dream-related (Svapna Yoga).

A dream yoga

Most dream yogas, including traditional Hindu Svapna and Tibetan Buddhist yogas, as well as contemporary lucid dreaming, involve learning to wake up in dreams. This means learning to recognize that you are dreaming so that you are no longer the victim of self-generated delusion. This can be an end it itself, as in contemporary lucid dreaming, or it can be in order to learn to recognize the self-created nature of the dream of life and to wake up out of it in any and every state, but most importantly, while awake. This is an important goal of Tibetan Dream Yoga which is shared by Integral Deep Listening, It is a variety of dream yoga that focuses on teaching skills for waking up, or becoming lucid, primarily in our waking life, and that in turn has major implications for what it means to become lucid in our dreams.

A life practice

Yogas are life-long sacred disciplines, meaning they involve dedication, daily practice, patience, persistence, and consistent effort. All life practices are not yogas, but all yogas are life practices. “Life practice” implies the learning of skills that do not simply heal or provide life balance, but are transformational in an ongoing way. Integral Deep Listening consists of ten different core competencies as components of a life practice designed to heal, balance, and transform.

An integral life practice

An “integral” life practice attempts to consider the relationships between self, values, behavior, and others and to bring these into an evolving balance in everyday life. It practices both cognitive and empathetic multi-perspectivalism, recognizing and taking into account levels and lines of development as well as waking, dreaming, deep sleep, and mystical states.

Interactive and Immersive

Integral Deep Listening involves ongoing interaction with your dream elements, including characters, monsters, buildings, roads and trees. It also involves learning to take a pain, like a stabbing pain in the back, or a feeling, like depression, and turn it into an image to interview, like a stabbing knife or a pit of depression. This interaction is immersive in that you become, identify and empathize with multiple “others,” both during interviews and later, in your application of their recommendations for your integral life practice. You interact with other students who are learning and who serve as interviewing partners.

A training in both personal and collective healing, balancing, and transformation

Psychology, self-help, coaching, and transpersonal practices primarily focus on self-development and personal enlightenment. Integral Deep Listening holds that we heal, balance, and transform best when we help others to do so. The goal is to create supportive groups, culture, and society that slowly, family by family and over generations, transforms the planet.

External support groups of those who share IDL Dream Yoga form your sangha. “Sangha” is a Buddhist word meaning “sacred community,” or those who share the same sacred yoga. Internal support groups are those emerging potentials you become when you do interviews. Over time you will develop a broad, sophisticated, and knowledgeable “intrasocial sangha” which is always there to provide you with helpful feedback and support.

A five-tiered certification program: Dream Yoga, IDL Interviewer, Coaching, Practitioner, Trainer

The Dream Yoga certification program provides interpretations of dreams that are superior to symbolic and projective approaches to dream interpretation. It also provides clear, germane, and helpful interpretations of dream-like experiences, like altered state mystical and near death experiences, that ring true. Dream Yoga is effective because interpretations are provided not by yourself, others, dream dictionaries, or “experts,” but by the characters and elements that are themselves parts of your dream. Because they are parts of your dream and invested in it, they are more likely to have relevant, useful, and accurate interpretations of it than “outsiders” are. Also, because they know you, the dreamer, intimately, their recommendations are more likely to be relevant, useful, and accurate.

In IDL Dream Yoga, you “become” this or that dream character and answer questions from its perspective. Questions in the interviewing protocol are designed to help you take the character’s perspective, discover its relationship to you and your life, provide for its possible transformation, and receive its recommendations regarding life issues important to you. Your interviewed character also can tell you why it thinks you had your dream and why this or that event in the dream occurred.

The Dream Yoga certification is designed for those who have a particular interest in dreams, how to achieve a deeper, more useful understanding and relationship with them, as well as to provide an introduction to Integral Deep Listening. In your course of study, you will watch short explanatory videos and read short articles that explain how and why Integral Deep Listening is a yoga. You will also learn how to interview the dream characters of others.

The IDL Interviewer certification program explores the dream-like nature of our waking life issues. It applies the interviewing process of Dream Yoga to life issues that are of most concern to you. Once you learn how to become personifications of life issues that are important to you, to interview them, and to access recommendations that you can test in your own life in order to see if they produce greater healing, balance, and transformation, you can then interview the life issues of others. The IDL Interviewer certification is designed for those who want to take their dream yoga to a deeper level that more fully integrates waking, dreaming, and mystical states.

The Coaching certification program focuses on understanding the basics of Integral Deep Listening, including:

how our familial, social, and cultural scripting creates our reality,
how and why we stay stuck in toxic drama, our misguided assumptions and conclusions, and
how to free ourselves from them,
aligning your goals with the priorities of your life compass,
assertiveness in the three realms of relationships, thinking, and dreaming,
improved problem-solving (called “triangulation”),
IDL Naming meditation,
IDL Pranayama,, and
dream incubation.

It also involves

learning how to use these capabilities to lead “Integral Salons.”
developing a marketing plan, and
helping coaching clients heal, balance, and transform their lives.

The Practitioner Certification program focuses on applying the above to a specific population of one’s choice to make a real difference in the world for some group or some challenge. Groups may be children, families, co-workers, or some clinical population, such as people with anxiety disorders or abused spouses. Challenges may be those with a particular addiction, say to alcohol or food, or it could be people with Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome, this or that phobia, those struggling with grief or work/school problems.

The Trainer Certification program focuses on research. Students learn and use Dream Sociometry and co-author published research into the usefulness of Integral Deep Listening in addition to teaching IDL to Coaches and Practitioners.

Purposes of the Curriculum

Eliminating Toxic Scripting:

The first of the three IDL healing components asks,

“How can I recognize and change my scripting and programming so I don’t pass it on to future generations?”

We are all scripted by our families, society, and culture. From birth, we internalize what we experience. Those experiences create our identity as well as how we view others and life. If we had been born someplace else, to different parents, we would largely think different thoughts, feel different feelings, and have a very different sense of who we are. It is essential that we unearth the scripted permissions and prohibitions we internalized as children. We can then sort through them to decide which are useful and which are not. Doing so removes false assumptions and interpretations of our actions and those of others that interfere with our growth, our relationships, and our problem solving. If we do not, we pass toxic aspects of our scripting onto future generations. When entire societies and cultures fail to question their scripting, humanity sleepwalks through life. Entire nations and societies sleepwalk through life, believing themselves to be autonomous and free when in reality they are living out collective groupthink.

The IDL curricula surfaces the assumptions of your scripting so you can assess whether they are still appropriate for you at the current stage of your life. It also exposes you to multiple relatively non-scripted perspectives through the interviewing process. The result is, that as you internalize those perspectives over time, you align your scripting with the priorities of your emerging potentials and life compass, moving your life into a state of flow.

An important related question is,

“How do I stop reinforcing and confirming my scripting while I am sleeping, in my dreams?”

How you respond to dream monsters, dream confusion, dream failure, or dream good fortune is also scripted. IDL will teach you has to avoid scripted misinterpretations of dream events even as you are dreaming.

Eliminating Toxic Drama:

The second of the three IDL healing components involves freeing ourselves from destructive drama. IDL asks, “How do I escape the roles of Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer in my relationships, thoughts, and dreams?”

If we do not understand how we stay trapped in the Drama Triangle, which involves the three above-mentioned roles, we will never find peace of mind. Life will be exciting as it cycles between punishment, helplessness, and self-rescuing addictions, but health, balance, and transformation will stay illusive, fragile, and precarious.

It is not enough to understand how we stay in drama in our relationships and then free ourselves from it. If we stay in self-persecution, powerlessness, and addiction in our thoughts and night-time dreams, those manifestations of toxic drama can undercut our relationships as well. IDL interviewing of dreams and life issues unearths the sources of toxic drama in our lives, its causes, and provides concrete recommendations to escape the Drama Triangle.

Eliminating Toxic Thinking:

The third of the three IDL healing components involves identifying and eliminating emotional cognitive distortions, logical fallacies, and those built-in cognitive biases that keep us asleep, dreaming, and sleepwalking in groupthink. The questions IDL asks about toxic thinking are,

“How do I stop thinking thoughts that cause me to feel scared, sad, angry, confused, and full of self-doubt?”

And,

“How do I stop experiencing my dreams in ways that cause me to feel bad?”

When we dream, we perceive what’s going on based on our scripted assumptions. We draw conclusions in the form of feelings and thoughts based on our perspective as the dreamer. When we interview dream characters and elements, both when awake and while dreaming, we experience the dream from liberating and transformative perspectives. As a result, we not only radically reframe our experience of our dream but deconstruct the assumptions on which our perceptions of our dreams, identity, and relationships are based. This wakes us up not only out of dream drama, but our normal state of sleepwalking in the drama of our thoughts, feelings, addictions, and relationships.

Healthy Goal Setting:

The first of the three IDL balancing components involves learning and implementing healthy goal setting. Working toward goals gives life meaning while protecting us from both depression and fear. If we don’t set goals for ourselves, we will spend our lives working on the goals of others and wondering why we don’t feel fulfilled. IDL healthy goal setting asks, “What are my long-term and short-term goals in physical, mental, emotional, relationship and other areas of my life?” IDL also asks, “How do we align our goals with our unique life compass?” The answer is, “By interviewing multiple emerging potentials and observing common themes.” These point us toward the priorities of our life compass. When our goals reflect those priorities, our lives move into alignment with our life compass. The result is life in flow – integration of others and self, objective and subjective, above and below, exterior and interior, macrocosm and microcosm.

Once you have goals that are in alignment with your life compass, how do you turn them into operationally defined goals, called “SMARTER” goals? SMARTER goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-based, Evaluated, and Revised. In IDL, SMARTER goals are not only measurable, but progress is shared with and assessed by your sangha members in the IDL Certification process.

IDL also asks in relationship to goal setting, “How do I set healthy goals while dreaming?” This is important because your dreams affect your physical and mental health whether you remember them or not. Without listening to them in a deep and integral way, your dreams are likely to perpetuate toxic aspects of your life script and thinking, as well as toxic drama. They will keep you asleep, dreaming, sleepwalking, and sick, but out of your awareness. When you practice dream incubation and character interviewing while dreaming, you heal, balance, and transform your dream life.

Assertiveness:

The second of the three IDL balancing components involves developing healthy risk-taking and authentic, as opposed to phony, self-confidence. It asks, “How do I avoid passivity and aggressiveness in my relationships, thinking, and dreams?”

We learn much more from our mistakes than our successes, just as we learn more from those who disagree with us than surrounding ourselves with an echo chamber of self-validation. To grow, we have to know how to differentiate healthy from foolish risks and develop the confidence necessary to make mistakes and fail. Finding the balance between passivity and aggressiveness toward others, ourselves, and in our dreams is an ongoing, never-ending challenge and competency. Instead of being a passive recipient of our dream experiences or an aggressive interventionist, changing dreams to meet our demands, IDL teaches us to both question our dream experience and learn to take the perspectives of other elements in our dreams, while we are dreaming.

Triangulation:

The third of the three IDL balancing components asks, “How do I improve my waking and dreaming problem solving to save time, energy, and avoid false starts and life detours?” IDL problem solving involves seeking guidance from 1) external sources of information, like mentors and artificial intelligence, 2) consulting our common sense and intuition, and by also 3) listening in a deep and integral way to interior sources of objectivity, including our interviewed dream characters. It means developing the habit of checking out our major life decisions with all three sources.

Interviewing:

Interviewing is the transformative lens through which IDL approaches healing, balancing, and transformation. Learning to interview the dream characters and personifications of life issues of ourselves, fellow students of IDL, and others constitutes the first of the four IDL transformative components. It asks, “How do I access emerging potentials and my unique life compass?” “How do I test the recommendations that come from my interviewing?” “How do I learn to do so in my dreams?”

Most of us stay locked in our childhood scripting all our lives. We stay stuck in toxic drama in our relationships, thinking, and dreams. We make wrong assumptions and exhibit confused thinking because we haven’t been taught how to access our emerging potentials and life compass. IDL interviewing makes transformation both more likely and lasting because it uses triangulation, which includes interviewing, to align your waking preferences and priorities with those of your emerging potentials and life compass.

Meditation:

While IDL interviewing provides objective, yet concrete feedback and recommendations regarding specific life issues that matter for your happiness today, meditation provides abstract or global objectivity. We need both. IDL meditation asks, “How do I develop objectivity that generates balance and peace of mind?”

The many varieties of meditation either involve concentration and focus or open focus receptivity and mindfulness. IDL uses naming of the contents of our awareness – our thoughts, feelings, and images, to cultivate both focus and mindfulness. Naming interrupts our “train of thought” and opens up clear, thought-free spaces between thoughts, feelings, and images. It uses detachment from feelings, thoughts, images, sensations, and awareness itself to generate transformative clarity. As you learn and practice IDL naming meditation while cooking, showering, eating, working, or traveling, you will find that objective clarity becomes more common in your dreams, keeping you out of drama and generating higher levels of awareness in your dreams as well as your waking life.

IDL Pranayama:

The third of the four IDL transformative components asks, “How do I turn my breath into my best friend and a path to transformation?”

IDL uses observation of seven octaves of the cycle of breath (Pranayama) as a form of meditation that can be practiced anywhere, at any time. Every breath involves six stages: abdominal inhalation, chest inhalation, the pause after inhalation, chest exhalation, abdominal exhalation, and the pause after exhalation. Observation of these six bodily experiences is the first of the seven octaves of IDL Pranayama. This first stage transforms your experience in the here and now by grounding you in your body. The other six octaves transform by 1) learning to amplify awareness of life processes, 2) transformational affect, 3) core qualities, 4) transformational perspectives, 5) learning to disattach from the components of our identity, and 6) breathing from the perspective of life itself.

Dream Incubation:

The fourth of the three IDL transformative components, healing, balancing, transforming, asks, “How do I decide what daily intentions are in alignment with my life compass?”

We usually set intent based on our waking desires, priorities, goals, preferences, and intentions. This ignores and neglects the intentions and priorities of our emerging potentials, accessed through interviewing, and the priorities of our unique life compass. For example, we generally set our goals or choose an integral life practice based on our own likes and dislikes or sense of what is most important. But how do we know that to be true? We can all look back at our lives at times and situations where we acted with clear intent and certainty, but ended up being foolish or reaching a dead end! This is because we did not know how to set intent aligned with the priorities of our life compass.

Setting intention also asks, “How do I incubate dreams that heal, balance, and transform?”

Pre-sleep incubation is a process of setting intent before you go to sleep in order to increase the likelihood that your dream experience will more closely align with the priorities of your life compass. By doing so, your dreams reinforce higher patterns of integration, transformation, balance, and healing, making it more likely you will find yourself in the right place at the right time to actualize its priorities the next day, in your waking life.

How do I get started?

Step 1:

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Step 2:

- Level 1: Learning IDL Interviewing

- - Weekly two-hour on-line instruction, 12 weeks
  - 24 instructional hours
  - Hour daily homework

Full price: $100,00/session: $1200.00

Student/Retired: $600,00

Early bird: $30.00/session: $360.00)

- Level 2: Working with Life Issues

- - Weekly two-hour on-line instruction, 24 weeks
  - 48 instructional hours
  - Hour daily homework

Full price: $100,00/session: $2400,00

Student/Retired: $1200.00

Early bird: $30.00/session: $720.00)

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